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Thursday, December 8, 2011

6 Steps to a Clutter-Free Xmas

I think I first realized how much clutter accumulates around Xmas the year we didn't finish opening our presents until the 26th...because we couldn't find them all amidst the general chaos.  Or maybe it was the year we found that poinsettia we'd lost still blooming in the basement...in February.  Or maybe it was the year...you get the picture.  One solution would be to unmask Santa Claus and cancel Xmas presents altogether, but I suspect no one would go for that, so here's some feng shui help with damage control for your space and your equally valuable time.

1) Think outside the box.  In England a "box room" is a storage space.  In my family home in New Jersey we had a "box room" in the basement that was literally full of empty boxes, the rationale being that they'd come in handy for wrapping and mailing Xmas presents--like if we suddenly owed the whole town Xmas presents.  If you're not a box collector, or you're not that into what comes in them, ask your friends and family to make a donation to the charity of your choice instead of buying you another tie you'll never wear.  Just make sure the charity you choose has aims you all share.  If you're considering making charitable donations instead of buying gifts for the folks on your list, you need to make doubly sure of this--and that they'll be OK with not receiving a physical gift from you this year.  Your sister's Xmas present is not an occasion to judge how materialistic she is or demonstrate how green or altruistic you can be by giving the kind of gift you approve of or would like to receive yourself.  Remember how well it went down when Homer gave Marge a bowling ball with "HOMER" engraved on it for her birthday?
2) This is where Amazon wish lists come in handy: they make it easy to give people what they really want.  If you don't have one already, make one now.  Better yet, make several: as well as your public wish list others can consult when buying gifts for you, you can make private wish lists of your gift ideas for Mom and Dad et al.  With most online retailers you can track your purchases so you don't repeat, and Amazon will even send you reminders of Uncle Joe's birthday a month, a week, and a day in advance.  Making it easier for your friends and family to find gifts for you is a gift in itself, so it's worth encouraging your computer-literate loved ones to start online wish lists too.  If you're worried this will take all the fun out of it (if by "fun" you mean stress), don't be: studies show that while givers are happier to give surprise gifts, recipients are happier to receive gifts they've requested.  The more gifts we all give and get that are keepers, the less post-Xmas clutter we'll have to dispose of.

3) Until that happens, remember the three Rs of gift disposal: Re-gift, Recycle, Re-purpose.  Did someone give you an otherwise lovely photo frame that clashes with your living room?  Now's the time to dig out that family photo you've been meaning to frame for your aunt.  Already read that book?  Pass it on to a friend who hasn't or donate it to your local library's next book sale.  Don't drink scotch?  Allergic to scented candles?  Now you've got host/hostess gifts for all those holiday parties you've been invited to.  I'll never forget the Xmas my family received, among us, not one, not two, but THREE hardcover copies of Barack Obama's The Audacity of Hope.  Clearly our friends and relatives understood our political leanings (see #1); clearly they did not understand that we share books with each other.  But it was still a win-win, because now we had gifts on hand for other friends who wanted to read it too.  Even when Grandma gives you a hand-knit sweater with teddy bears on it, there's nothing like the challenge of writing a thank-you note for the gift from hell to hone your creative writing skills!

4) Streamline.  When I was growing up, my parents both sang in a madrigal group that went Xmas caroling at the local hospital, to shut-ins, and at holiday parties on Xmas Eve.  After a hard night's singing, the group gathered at the home of two of the members for a Boar's Head Dinner (the Boar's Head Carol was our entrance number) and gift exchange.  By the time I was old enough to sing along, this group had been around for almost fifty years, and they knew how to run a gift exchange.  Instead of dreading this one, everyone looked forward to it, because it was all food, mostly homemade.  What could come in more handy around the holidays, when everyone has more people to feed than usual and less time to cook?  And what could be simpler?  There was no figuring out what to get each person, no mixing up name tags on mystery gifts.  Everyone just made as many jars of tomato chutney or loaves of cranberry bread as there were families in the group, and those who didn't cook bought everyone boxes of toffee or Florida citrus.  (My mom wins the efficiency AND recycling prize for training everyone in the group to return their empty jars to her in order to receive more lemon curd next year.)  The assembly line worked for Henry Ford, and it can work for you too.

5) Experiences take up mental space, not closet space.  When you give someone a gift certificate to their favorite restaurant, or tickets to that show they've been dying to see, or a day at the spa, you also give them the psychological bonus of looking forward to the outing from the moment they open the envelope till the day they cash it in.  In my family we often enjoy the experience of opening our Xmas presents to each other more than the gifts themselves, because we all write the gift tags in code hinting at who they're to and from and what's inside.  Trying to figure out who each present under the tree is for is all part of the joke, as is thinking of a funny way to label each gift while wrapping it.  Time is worth as much as money, so invest in yourself by finding ways to enjoy the time you spend on gift-giving.  Or put the Theory of Relativity to work for you and save space by giving people good times.   

6) Why leave all your holiday shopping till holiday time when stores are at their most crowded and checkout lines are longest?  Instead, set aside a gift closet (or gift shelf or box or shopping bag, depending on the size of your living space), and to the extent your budget will allow, whenever you spot something that would make a good gift for someone on your list, buy it then and there, no matter what time of year it is.  This applies to birthdays too, and is especially good to keep in mind while traveling.  What if you have absolutely no space to do this and/or you're one of those people who hates to go shopping?  You can still give yourself a head start by making a Gift Ideas folder and adding ideas to it year-round as they occur to you.  You can use a physical file folder for things you come across in catalogues (just rip out and save the relevant pages; don't keep the whole catalogue) and/or a virtual file folder of websites you've bookmarked.  (If you use an online bookmarking service like Delicious rather than bookmarking with your browser, you'll be able to access your gift ideas from anywhere.)  That way, when December rolls around and life gets crazy and you have no time to figure out what to get everyone or go shopping...you won't have to.

Lastly, to stay sane this holiday season, keep in mind that the presents themselves are beside the point; what matters most is the love and laughter that went with them.  The best Xmas gift my family ever got was a package of Philadelphia Cream Cheese wrapped in tin foil, because when we finally got around to opening it--this was the year we didn't find all our presents till the 26th--we had absolutely no idea who it was from, who it was for, or how it came to be underneath our Xmas tree.  But we laughed longer and harder over it than over any other gift we've ever received--because of course by then it also had to be thrown away immediately.  At its most basic, feng shui is where form meets function, so if the Xmas present that functions best for you--by bringing you so much comfort and joy you roll about on the floor laughing--comes in the form of cream cheese, then for you that's good feng shui.

Do you have a Xmas clutter story to share?  If so, please post it here!

Friday, March 4, 2011

6 Reasons to Start Spring Cleaning Before Spring Starts

STIR-CRAZY from being snowbound?  

LETHARGIC from lack of exercise?  

Suffering from SPRING FEVER ever since that one brief burst of spring weather? 

If you answered "YES" to any or all of these, you don't have to wait for freak weather to feel better.  Starting your spring cleaning now can lift your mood and raise your energy level even if it's still too cold and miserable outside to leave the house.

Here's WHY:

1) Clearing OUT is a pre-requisite for cleaning UP.  You know those friends who are always moaning about having to clean their homes before the people they pay to clean for them arrive?  This is why.  No matter who does the actual cleaning, you can't get rid of dirt you can't get at.  If you ARE one of those people who's always frantically cleaning up before the cleaners come, now's a good time to ask yourself why it's more important for your cleaners to think you live in a neat home twice a month than it is for you to actually enjoy living in a neat home all the time.

2) Out with the old, in with the new!  With all of nature gearing up to start growing like mad, it's natural to crave change at this time of year.  But if you want change in your life, you need to make room, literally, for it to occur.  Before you plunge in, make sure you have somewhere to keep the keepers from among whatever you're about to sort through.  If you're storing things on the stairs, on the seats of chairs, on the kitchen counters, or on the dining room table because your closets, drawers, and shelves are overflowing with stuff you never use because you can't get at it, then you need to prioritize cleaning out your storage areas first.  Otherwise you'll just be moving your clutter around, not clearing it.

3) Clutter attracts energy the same way it attracts dust bunnies.  Just as anything you leave lying around untouched for too long starts collecting dust and dirt, random objects abandoned in awkward locations interrupt the flow of energy through your home and become stagnant spots that make you feel lethargic.  Not only are piles of clutter "stored" on the floor a tripping hazard, they literally drag your energy down to their level.  If this sounds unlikely, don't take my word for it.  The next time you need a quick pick-me-up, pick a few things up and see for yourself.  The more clutter you clear out of the way, the more energy you'll free up to energize YOU.  Just cleaning out one desk drawer or one kitchen cupboard will give you such an energy boost you'll WANT to do more.

4) You don't need to be methodical to reap the benefits--especially not if you're someone who tends to stall out in the planning stages of household projects.  Start with whatever most appeals to you--or whatever most annoys you.  The main thing is to START.  And then to STOP before you burn out.  There's no need to embark on an all-out cleaning frenzy--especially not if the prospect feels so daunting you get overwhelmed and abandon the whole idea.  It's better to start small, take baby steps, and give yourself frequent breaks to apply the energy you've released to other areas of your life before you plow it all back into more cleaning projects.

5) More daylight means more time to see more clearly what you're doing while it's still too cold to go outside.  You know how hard it is to tell if a color looks good or bad on you under the artificial light in department-store changing rooms?  The same principle applies at home: it's much easier to tell whether or not that old sweater you haven't worn in years is a keeper by daylight than in the semi-dark, or if that painting you bid on at the fundraiser because nobody else did really belongs in your living room--or in a motel room.

6) Last but not least, you know you're even less likely to spend time indoors clutter-clearing once the weather turns warm, so why wait and struggle against that?  Your success rate will skyrocket if you plan to get things done when you're more likely to do them.

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

Conquer the Xmas Time Crunch: 2 Steps to Save Your Seasonal Sanity

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Does December trigger feelings of dread and doom, as the holiday season--with its endless to-do lists--approaches?  Or have you already been panicking for a month, because Xmas in the world of retail started the day after Halloween?  Your time can get even more cluttered than your space at this time of year.  To steer clear of the holiday hectics, keep in mind:

1) Everything doesn't have to be exactly the same every year.
2) Doing it all isn't really an option--and never was.          

Right now, before total chaos sets in, take a few minutes of quiet time to prioritize which holiday traditions are the ones that matter most to you.  It's a good idea to discuss this with your whole family, so no one's favorite tradition gets unwittingly abandoned and you don't bust a gut over stuff nobody cares about that much.  Ask everyone to make a list of their top three traditions and then compare notes.  Your family members' favorites may surprise you. 

Christmas Cake - Marzipan StollenWhen my grandmother died, we all missed her homemade stollen at breakfast on Xmas morning.  (Stollen is a German yeast-raised sweet bread with dried fruit, nuts, and icing.)  Even though my whole family loves to cook, none of us felt we had the time to bake stollen on Xmas Eve.  For a number of years we tried different bakery or store-bought substitutes, but they were never as good as Grandma's. 

Eventually I started to wonder if the time we wasted seeking out disappointing store-bought stollen could be better spent dividing up the labor of baking stollen among ourselves, so no one person had to do it all?  In feng shui--and life in general--it's OK to experiment.  There will be another Xmas next year, if you change your mind.  The fact that Xmas comes every year helps too when favorite rituals collide: I remember a period in my childhood when our Xmas tree did or didn't wear tinsel garlands in alternate years, so as to accommodate everyone's wishes. 

Now I mix and knead the dough early in the morning on Xmas Eve, so it can rise during the day while we all do other things, such as wrap presents and attend a holiday tea party hosted by family friends.  When we get home, the stollen goes in the oven while we grab a quick dinner of turkey-chestnut soup (left over from Thanksgiving and de-frosted).  Then I dash off to my singing gig, and when the stollen's done baking, my brother makes the icing and decorates it, then heads to church with Mom.  When we all re-convene, after midnight, there's fresh homemade stollen and sherry awaiting us. 

The time trade-off is we don't put up as many Xmas decorations as we did when I was a kid, but then my parents probably had enough Xmas decorations for three houses, so it still looks plenty festive with only a fraction of them on display.  We don't have a Xmas tree either, and while we do miss that glorious smell and the colored lights reflected in the bay window, none of us has the time or the inclination to decorate a Xmas tree--not at the price of store-bought stollen, stress, and sleep deprivation.  And we've got breakfast taken care of through New Year's--Grandma's recipe makes a lot of stollen.

Little House in the Big WoodsJust as it's OK to let go of old traditions, it's also OK to start new ones--and it's OK to let those go too, when the thrill wears off.  The year I read Little House in the Big Woods in school, we actually did decorate our Xmas tree at home with strings of cranberries and popcorn.  I still remember how exciting it was to re-enact one of my favorite books, so I'm glad my mom made that happen for me.  But even as a child--and we all know how kids love to do the same thing over and over again--I realized stringing popcorn and cranberries together with a needle and thread wasn't something I wanted to do every single year. 

No one can or should try to do everything.  It's much easier to let go of less-loved rituals when you're clear that you're doing so not because you're a failed Martha Stewart, but because they don't mean as much to you as the traditions you do choose to spend your time on.  Before you get sucked into full-on holiday season, take a feng shui time out to re-focus on what matters most to you and yours, so you can channel your time and energy in that direction.

Wednesday, September 1, 2010

Eat Pray Love Move--But Not So Fast. 
Use Feng Shui to Move with Purpose, 
Not Panic.
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It's that time of year again: all those leases turning over at the end of August + back to school = moving season!  If you're not spending every spare minute packing or unpacking this week, and you're in the mood for a movie, keep your eye out for the scene in Eat Pray Love where Julia Roberts' character, prior to embarking on a year-long trip to Italy, India, and Indonesia, puts what little stuff she has left after a painful divorce into a storage unit.  As the door rolls down, she says sadly to the guy in charge of the storage facility: "My whole life in a 12 x 12 box."  His reply?  "Most people never come back for their lives."  Or wait so long to do so, they no longer recognize that life as theirs.

When I moved to Boston for grad school, I had no idea where I'd be living afterwards, I only knew it would not be Boston.  (If you're from New England this probably makes no sense; if you're from New York, it probably does.)  The master's program I was enrolled in crammed all the coursework of a two-year master's degree into one year.  (Word to the wise: this saves you big bucks on tuition, but your sanity will suffer.)  I viewed my stay in Boston as temporary and saw no point in moving everything I owned there, only to move it all somewhere else a year later.  My plan was to live on the cheap in an apartment share, bring with me only what I could cram into my compact car, and put the rest in storage. 

Sound plan, right?  Here's what went wrong:

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1) Pack in haste, repent at leisure.  We've all done this and regretted it.  The summer I moved, Boston was tied with San Francisco for the tightest rental market in the country.  My apartment search went on for months.  A week before classes started, I still had nowhere to live.  Did I pack in a hurry?  You bet!  And learned the hard way that you can't really save or waste time.  You can only choose how and when you spend it.  No matter how much of a hurry you're in, you're still choosing between the minutes it would take to label those boxes now, while you can see what's in them--vs. the hours you'll waste in future rifling through unlabeled boxes.  No sound investment adviser would recommend choosing small, short-term, present gains at the expense of large, long-term, future losses.  Bad time-management decisions, like bad investment decisions, tend to be based on non-existent options.  Housing prices won't rise forever, and unless you have X-ray vision, you won't magically, instantly know what's lurking inside unlabeled boxes.  

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2) Even when you think you're taking less than you'll need, you're still taking too much.  I knew the apartment I'd be living in was already furnished except for my bedroom-to-be.  I knew I'd be sharing a tiny kitchen with three other people who had already equipped it with all their own kitchen stuff.  I remember deciding the only housewares I really needed to bring with me were my trusty teapot and tea strainer.  (My grandfather came from Barrow-in-Furness, U.K.--a place so cold and rainy you'd probably die if you didn't drink tea all day.)  Yet there was still a pile of unopened boxes that sat in the middle of my bedroom floor for nine months because there was nowhere else to put them.  To this day I don't know what was in all those boxes, because I never got around to opening them.  Clearly I did not need whatever was in them as badly as I thought I did.

3) Don't unpack too fast.  Right after I moved in, I bought a desk.  As soon as I got it home, I parked it in the corner, up against the wall.  Then I immediately unpacked and put away all my desk stuff.  I was a student, classes had already started, I needed to set up my desk ASAP, right?  Wrong.  There was no reason my desk had to sit in the corner or face the wall.  That was just where my desk had been everywhere else I'd ever lived.  And now that it was too full and heavy to move, that's where it would stay here too: in a spot where there was no relief from eyestrain, making it harder for me to stay focused.  (You can't rest your eyes by looking up from your computer screen into the middle distance when there's a wall all up in your face.)  If I'd taken the time to experiment with different furniture arrangements--instead of being so rushed I used the layouts of past rooms as default settings--I would've learned this sooner.  You won't have the chance to play around with your rooms like this again till it's time to repaint, so make the most of it.  Several moves later and wiser, my desk now faces a view of the Empire State Building--from Brooklyn.

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4) Work with the space you have, not the space you used to have.  If you have trouble fitting everything into your new space, you may be trying too hard to replicate the look or feel of your old space.  Whatever you had before or happen to be used to isn't always the best choice.  When I was in the process of moving to a brownstone in Brooklyn, some family friends who were downsizing offered me all kinds of free furniture from their split-level in suburbia.  But my apartment was tall and narrow and their furniture was low and wide.  Hand-me-downs can be a life saver when you're moving on a tight budget, but in this case would have cost me more in space than I saved in money.  It's no coincidence Shakespeare wrote the best poems in the English language within the confines of sonnet form: structure stimulates creativity.  You'll find more and better solutions working within the limitations of your space than you will banging your head against it.   

5) Go bare.  Live with your rooms bare of everything but the basics for a while.  You may find you sleep better in a bedroom that's all about sleep because all that’s in it is your bed.  When it starts to feel too bare, re-introduce things slowly, as if you're testing for food allergies.  Notice how what you add can change how restful your bedroom feels.  Inhabiting a room through diminishing degrees of empty will give you a clearer sense of how much that room can hold without feeling too full.  You may discover it's not the same amount of stuff--or the same kinds of stuff--you kept in that same room where you lived before.

6) Make sure you're movin' on up, not just movin' out.  Who says you have to put up all the same artwork and decorations in the same rooms or positions you had them in before?  It's OK to give your favorite things a rest sometimes.  The art we keep around us affects us in much the same way as the people we keep around us, so it’s worth finding out whether or not you still want to see the same art all the time--or at all.  When you look at your old favorites again after living without them for a while, you may find your taste has changed without your realizing it.  It's the difference between friends you feel just as close to no matter how much time elapses between visits, and friends you outgrow.

7) Really?  Seriously?  As in, "I kept this?  Does it even belong to me?  What was I thinking?!"  When I eventually cleaned out my storage locker, there was some stuff I still remembered and still wanted (books mostly, and my kitchen stuff) but there was more I had no use for and had forgotten I even owned (the gigantic desktop computer I didn't bring with me because it was already obsolete, posters from my college days that I no longer liked, a papa-san chair mice were nesting in by the time I retrieved it).  I wasted a lot of money storing stuff I now had so little connection with it felt like it belonged to some other person.  (It did: the person I used to be.)  Instead of paying a monthly storage fee to get perspective on your possessions, imagine yourself reclaiming them from storage in the future.  Then subtract everything else you could have spent that much money on in the meantime from that vision.  Are you still as happy to see those things again as you thought you'd be?

8) Don't sweat the small stuff.  (No, I’m not going to pretend the entire contents of your home is all small stuff.)  Cocktails work well for this.  When you’re done with the heavy lifting, put your feet up with a tall, cool glass and some bags of books or boxes of odds and ends to sort.  

Moving will always be a lot of work, but it doesn't have to be a cause for panic.  Practice the feng shui principle of purposeful observation to make your next move more manageable in terms of space and time. 

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

What Feng Shui Isn't: 3 Most Common Misconceptions about Feng Shui

Feng shui is expensive.  
Feng shui is Asian minimalist.  
Feng shui is New Age.

Do any of these sound familiar?

I can't afford to do feng shui.  Actually, you can't afford not to.  Most of us spend much of our time in environments we can't control that may be unpleasant, uncomfortable, or even unsafe.  Ignoring the flicker of fluorescent lights in the office all day, tuning out express trains clattering past the platform, tensing up from sitting still for six straight hours at your desk--all this takes energy.  Even if you do it all subconsciously, the constant strain of blocking out your surroundings takes its toll in fatigue, stress, and poor focus.  That's why it's so important--especially for city dwellers--to make sure the one environment you can control--your home--is a place that refreshes and invigorates you--not another awkward or uncomfortable space that further drains you.  You don't need to spend big bucks redecorating.  Once you start practicing feng shui, you're likely to find you have too much stuff, not too little.  Or that you have all the right things in all the wrong places.  Reassessing and rearranging what you already own costs time, not money.  Feng shui is a cost-effective way to invest in yourself by investing in your home that's an extension of yourself.

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Asian minimalist decor is not my style.  That's OK, it's not mine either.  (But if you do like Asian accents--or kitchen gadgets--and you live in the New York area, you can get your fix at Pearl River.)  Feng shui isn't about any particular style.  It's about unlearning how you've been taught you "should" react to different styles, and re-learning how to respect your own taste.  People often ask me if they should paint their front door red, because they've heard red is a "power" color.  But that's not unique to feng shui--that's just how our eyes work.  We all know red has the power to attract attention: that's why stop signs, stop lights, fire engines, and danger flags are red.  But red will only be a powerful color for your front door if you like red.  Anything you like to look at lifts your mood and energy level when you look at it.  So if you like red, a red front door will improve the energy of your home by improving the energy you bring with you every time you enter.  If you don't like red, you won't like having your attention drawn to a red door on a daily basis, and your mood and energy level will reflect this.  Bottom line: go with your gut reaction.  Feng shui is a tool for tuning into that, not for determining what it should be. 

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I'm not New Age-y.  You don't need to be.  Feng shui has more to do with your central nervous system than with New Age philosophy.  At the end of the day, we're all mammals--and our limbic systems are more like reptiles.  Since you can't change that, it makes good sense--and good science--to work with it, instead of struggling against it.  Notice which seats get taken first the next time you enter a room with a group of people.  Whether you call it feng shui, office politics, or etiquette, executives position their desks to face the door for the same reason men traditionally offer women the banquette seat in restaurants: it feels safer to sit with your back to the wall, facing the door so you can see any potential danger that might come through it.  You may not even realize you're doing this, but you still do it--and so does everyone else.  You can't always choose your seat at meetings or in restaurants, but trying to ignore things in your home that feel unsafe is asking the impossible of your nervous system.  You may think you don't have time to fix that chair with the wobbly leg or clear away the clutter blocking the stairs, but do you really have the energy to keep pretending it's not there?  Your reptile brain knows better and won't let you forget it--if not consciously, then by not letting you concentrate, relax, or fall asleep.  Our five senses have evolved to protect us, and feng shui helps us hear and heed them.  You can't fight evolution, but you can use feng shui to give your inner reptile a break.

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Monday, August 16, 2010

I never intended to practice feng shui. Now I'm a feng shui consultant. What happened?

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Basically, I stole my mom's Xmas present.  I know, sounds awful--but I gave it back eventually and I had my reasons!  Namely, spending Xmas in the house I grew up in--the house my parents and grandparents lived in with four generations of stuff crowded into one family's space.  Some of it was worth keeping (they really don't make hand tools like they used to), but some of it belonged at Good Will (no one needs that many "spare" blankets) or at the county recycling center (back issues of National Geographic, anyone?).  Growing up, I never knew if I'd be able to find my piano music in time for my lesson--let alone in time to practice beforehand.  When I moved into my first apartment in college, I didn't have to buy any dishes or kitchen utensils because there was already three or four of everything I needed in my parents' basement.
Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui So it was not entirely surprising that my brother gave our mom a book called Clear Your Clutter With Feng Shui for Xmas.  What surprised me was wanting to read it.  At the time I knew nothing about feng shui and had no interest in finding out.  And after wading through disorganized guides to getting organized and 400-page tomes on how to simplify your life, I'd had it with self-help books.  But this one practiced what it preached: it was compact, concise, spare, and straightforward--in other words, uncluttered! 

When I opened it to a random page on organizing your closet by color (as opposed to by category, with all your shirts together, pants together, etc.) my immediate reaction was: That'll never work!  Followed immediately by: I've gotta try it!  Opening my closet door to a rainbow of color instead of a confusing jumble was irresistible enough for me to ignore the stubborn part of my mind insisting it was impossible because clothes of different lengths wouldn't clear the stuff on my closet floor if they were mixed together.  Turning off that voice of habit masquerading as the voice of reason allowed me to hear the more creative, more experimental--and ultimately, more reasonable--voice hinting I could also move that stuff on the floor around if necessary, or even move it out of my closet altogether. 

Just as my inner skeptic predicted, some of my clothes did not fit into the new color system.  But these turned out to be clothes that didn't fit me either.  They were the wrong size, or shades that made me looked jaundiced, or unflattering styles I no longer wore.  You can see where this is heading, right?  By the time I got all my clothes rearranged by color, I'd cleaned out my whole closet without even realizing it, because I was having so much fun throughout the process. 

Wait--did I just have fun cleaning out my closet?  If that's feng shui, then sign me up!  My mom's (temporarily) stolen Xmas present turned out to be the gift that kept on giving.  Now it's a pleasure--instead of a pain--to open my closet door, and I can find my clothes much faster than before.  How come?  Our minds may think in categories, but we look into closets with our eyes, not our minds--and our eyes see colors, not categories.  By opening my eyes to color, feng shui opened my mind to possibility. 

Stay tuned for more in future posts about re-thinking how you think...

Next post: What feng shui isn't.  What this blog isn't.